Family Therapy & Child Counseling Services
Very often I hear from parents of teenagers and young adults. They are worried that their daughter or son is using drugs, failing in school, lacking motivation or interest, having anger issues and seem sad and distant.
As parents, we all want the best for our children, and there is not many things more painful than to see your child suffering and feel you cannot help them. These parents often state they feel responsible, guilty and yet powerless to do anything to change the situation. No matter how many times they try to reach out to their child, they feel ignored or rejected. There is no progress being made and no solutions are found. This feeling of discouragement and frustration affects the whole family system, distancing parent from child and creating pain, suffering and a serious fracture in the family system.
It is for this reason that I think Family Therapy is so important. The family is a unit whether functional or toxic and it is affected by each individual, their moods and their emotions. Each individual strongly influences the coping mechanism and harmony or disharmony within this family unit.
The Benefits of Family Therapy
By entering family therapy, we learn to understand what family dynamics are taking place. We look at the communication issues, power struggles, reasons behind anger and resentments and the reason for the tension within the family. Every individual has a voice and it needs to be heard, understood and validated. The relationship between the parents have a tremendous influence on the rest of the family.
While many parents want to believe that their children are not aware of the tensions and disagreements between them, in my experience, the children always know. They may not know the particulars of the problem, but they can feel the tension and resentment in the home. Most children remain silent but confused, feeling insecure and anxious, but not knowing or afraid to approach their parents.